Dating red flags checklist
Tick the red flags you're actually seeing and get an honest, judgement-free read on where things stand. This is a self-assessment of your own situation — not a search — built to help you trust what you're already noticing.
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What your result actually means
Your score is a prompt to pay attention, not a diagnosis. Any single red flag can have an innocent explanation — people are busy, awkward, or bad at texting. What matters is the pattern: several signs appearing together, and especially your own persistent sense that something is off.
Red flags are most useful as a reason to slow down and gather information, not to accuse. Ask honest questions and watch whether the answers hold up over time. Trust is built from consistency between words and actions, and a genuine person will understand your wish to take things at a careful pace.
If your doubts keep circling back to who the person really is — borrowed-looking photos, a name that doesn't fit, no presence anywhere else — that's the one red flag you can actually resolve. A private photo search confirms whether they are who they say before you invest more of yourself.
Questions, answered
What are the biggest red flags in dating?
The most serious red flags are requests for money, stories that don't add up, refusing to video chat or meet, ignoring your boundaries, and a face you can't verify anywhere else online. Any one can be innocent, but several together are a strong cue to slow down and verify.
How many red flags are too many?
There's no exact number, but when several serious signs stack up — or when one keeps recurring despite reassurance — it's time to take your unease seriously. Use the result as a prompt to ask direct questions, protect yourself, and verify who you're dealing with.
Is this checklist a background check?
No. It's a private self-assessment of signs you're noticing in your own situation. It doesn't search anyone or pull any records. If you want to confirm someone's identity, Sherlock can verify their photos against public sources — but that's a separate, optional step you choose.
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